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cognitive dissonance - The Literary Exhibitionist
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04302017-05


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There's a guy I work with who had a foot amputated due to an infection related to diabetes, and I'm experience a sort of cognitive dissonance about it. He was out for several weeks, which I only learned close to when he was to start phasing in his return to the office was due to this specific surgery. I had seen him on crutches for a while before he was out, but never talked to him directly about it. I was never especially close to him; it seemed like it would be tacky for me to ask anything too personal. Just a couple of weeks ago, Scott filled me in.

On the days he's in the office now, he uses a wheelchair. They cut the foot off mid-shin, apparently to make it easier to fit him for a prosthetic. I guess the plan is that eventually he'll be walking again, with the prosthetic foot -- or a blade, I guess, is what he'll be getting. For now, though, he recovers and does physical therapy and has a wheelchair. The fact that his foot is missing is kind of hard not to notice. It's even harder with him sitting in the chair, what's left of his leg kind of sticking out. When I last saw him, he was smiling and otherwise behaving as though everything is fine, which I suppose is good.

When I first heard about this, I was rather horrified on his behalf. I can't imagine what it's like to go through such a thing, emotionally as much as physically -- and especially as an adult. I suppose ways people deal with it vary as widely as personalities in general do. For all I know, he's been relatively indifferent to it all. I can't imagine that actually being the case, but who knows?

He came into the bathroom the other day while I was on one of the two toilets we have in the men's room. He pushed his wheelchair into the accessible stall, which, considering the size of the chair, must still be a challenge to use. I see it as different between him and, say, my friend Karen, who has been a wheelchair user all her life. She's got this stuff down. This coworker, though, is having to learn it all for the first time.

I was thinking about this today and realized something for the very first time. At the old office location, the mens' room had a single toilet stall -- and it was standard size, not accessible at all. Come to think of it, that building was not really eccesible at all. There were stairs leading up to the front door. It did have an elevator, but the only way to get to it from outside, without using stairs, would have been by going into the parking garage first. I pity anyone in a wheelchair with any need to get into that building. This new building is clearly much more recently constructed, and thus far more accessible on pretty much all fronts. That said, when I went to wash my hands the other day after seeing the wheelchair come in, it did occur to me that even there, it's probably awkward at best trying to reach the faucets from a chair. (Conveniently for Karen, she's an architect who works as a consultant for accessibility issues. As such, her home is custom designed for her needs.)

When it comes to the recent amputee, though, every time I see him it's a slightly jarring sight. I suppose I'll just have to get used to it eventually. It's not like his foot is ever coming back.

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04302017-09


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Not much to tell about last night, except that I took myself to see Amy Schumer and Goldie Hawn in Snatched, which Shobhit was not interested in and which he was convinced I would wind up giving a C or C- because of the mixed to bad reviews. But, although it's true he never would have liked it as much as I did, as I said to him when I got home, Amy Schumer is the brunt of disproportionate misogynist hatred, which I see as the explanation for the incredibly low user rating for the movie on iMDB.com. "She's like the comedy version of Hillary Clinton," I told him, to give him a frame of reference as a person who practically idolizes Hillary.

The movie still wasn't great at all, of course, but it was good enough -- and made me laugh more than I honestly expected it to. It entertained me just as much as I could have asked it to.

I came home and wrote my review, and then watched this week's Big Bang Theory with Shobhit -- an unusually good episode, I thought. I've been finding the show's quality to be notably declined through most of this season, and even found myself thinking last week, This is lame. It was nice to see an episode that finally harkened back to when it was more consistently good.
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I just had lunch with Karen at Six-Seven at the Edgewater Hotel, and am back much later than usual for really one reason only: we had to sit in the bar because for the first time ever there was a 30-40 minute wait to get seated in the dining room (some kind of luncheon happening at the hotel), and the waitress took forever to attend to us at every turn. It was ridiculous.

Scott and Noah have been at a store working on resets all week, but they were back again when I returned. "How many martini lunch was that?" Scott quipped. This is amusing ironic, given that I told Karen not to worry about how long it was taking and I literally said to her, "I could be gone another hour and no one would complain." I suppose technically I'm still right -- Scott made a comment, but he still didn't complain.

Lunch was lovely as always, regardless. We both felt like it had been only a week since we last saw each other, but it was a week ago today that we had our last lunch, on Friday of my Birth Week; and she came over for that Indian feed dinner party the very next day, which would be two weeks ago tomorrow. But, I actually haven't seen her since. Time just keeps flying by.

I guess I should actually get back to getting some work done now though.

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04302017-16

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positive energy please