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08202016-60


-- चार हजार और पचास-तीन --


I could swear there was something I thought about writing in today's DLU that I am now forgetting. Now, I am left merely to tell you that I forgot what it was.

I did post on Danielle's friend Danielle's Facebook wall to wish her a happy birthday -- I posted this picture of her and me together in neighboring phone booths from when we were on our way back from Vancouver, B.C. in 2015, the trip where Danielle could not make it to the Madonna concert and so Other Danielle and her friend Andrea came along instead. Anyway, in today's post I wrote, "Just a quick call to wish you a Happy Birthday!"

I only mention this because looking up that photo reminded me of the last time I had been in Vancouver -- two years ago. Prior to that, it had been two years previous as well: when Shobhit and I stayed two nights in Sachin's time share in a high-rise building. And now we're staying in that same unit again for our anniversary trip this June. It seems these days I'm returning to visit that city on average every two years: 2013, 2015, 2017. Prior to the honeymoon trip, I had last been there with Susan, when she and I took a trip up there in 2011.

This year's trip will be the 10th time I visit. It's already my third-most visited city outside of Washington State, and Los Angeles and New York have clearly unfair advantages given my visits there were due to Shobhit living in those cities at the time. In a way, Vancouver is the real winner, since it's my most-visited city outside of Washington in which neither I nor Shobhit was living.

And I love that city. I never tire of it. I have long said that it would be next on my list of places to live, if Seattle were somehow wiped from the map.

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08202016-27


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There was one point about doing crosswords with Shobhit in my entry yesterday that I meant to reiterate but spaced on. I have already said that it's nice having a new, common interest with my husband, something that's sort of like a new hobby for us to work on together. In the context of yesterday's entry, in which I realized that doing crosswords does not improve memory or cognitive function in spite of common belief, what I would say now is having this new shared interest with Shobhit basically makes up for that. It may not be making my memory better, but it is serving as one way to enhance the super-long-term relationship I'm in.

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Oh. Speaking of super-long-term relationships, I guess I could mention that Katina has officially served my brother with divorce papers. I wonder what the statistics are on marriages that end in divorce after 21 years? Their wedding was the first and only one at which I was the Best Man. I was 19 years old, it was such a novelty to see me in a tuxedo that there were moments when more people were taking photos of me than of Christopher and Katina, and they made me wear a fucking bolo tie.

21 years later, I could be tempted to quip that it serves them right. But I won't.

Their marriage has been rocky for ages, actually. Like, since before they got married, really. They got together when they were 16 years old and Katina had Nikki with another man before she got back together with Christopher again. Given this insanely long and intertwined history, I wouldn't even be surprised if they wound up being one of those couples that divorced and then eventually got back together again. They've already done that before, after all, just without actual marriage documents.

A lot of what's happening now seems kind of inevitable. But in spite of the complicated history I have with my longtime-conservative brother, the whole thing still makes me sad.

In any case, he's still at Mom and Bill's in Idaho. Sitting there day after day without his kids is probably not helping his depression problems. It looks like there is a pretty good chance he will indeed still be there when I come visit for Mom and Bill's 20th anniversary in May. If so, then I'll just take the lot of them out for dinner. Assuming Bill allows for it, anyway. Their going out is always dictated by how badly his foot is hurting.

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08202016-16

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