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I feel like the C+ grade I gave The Boss Baby, which I saw an advanced screening of last night with Shobhit, was actually very generous. All I could think while watching most of it was, Holy shit this movie is dumb.

Shobhit really enjoyed it. Usually he guesses with stunning precision what grade I will give a movie, and his first guess for this one was A-. A-minus! As if! Shobhit tends to enjoy kids' movies, though. This is actually one of my first memories in my relationship with him, though: I was at his place when he still lived with Faith, and she asked if he was going to see some family movie about bears, as I recall. I can't remember the name of it. I just know I wasn't particularly interested in it. I just remember Faith saying she was surprised Shobhit wasn't planning to see it, because she knew he liked kids' movies.

Shobhit and I spent a few minutes going down memory lane while we waited in line for that movie, actually. We got there around 6:00, which is standard arrival for a 7 p.m. advanced screening -- there was already a relatively long line wrapped around the railing on the top floor of Pacific Place, where the AMC theatre is. I can't really remember how this came up, but at some point I mentioned how interesting it is to me that all the unsolicited relationship advice I used to get -- particularly when Shobhit and I first embarked on a long distance relationship -- is now nonexistent, as most of those people are now either single or divorced. And I stated what I really think is the secret to a long lasting, committed relationship: non-monogamy. Hardcore monogamists hate hearing that and will largely react as though morally offended, but guess what breaks up the most relationships? Shobhit and I don't have that problem.

And what a long way we've come from when we first got together -- when I myself was one of those staunch monogamists. But in 2004, I was still a virgin. I mentioned to Shobhit that although I came close exactly one time, I have never managed to hook up via a gay hookup app (he has, actually), and he mentioned how we met online, as though meeting in a text-only Washington State chat room on gay.com were at all the same. That said, I mentioned last night, he definitely would have fucked me that very first night we met if I had allowed it. He said last night he's glad I didn't. "You would have seen my flaws and we wouldn't be together!" That made me laugh. (We didn't have sex until over a month later. We met in mid-June that year and I think it was . . . oh, right: late July.)

Anyway. Shobhit also talked about how Faith had not liked Shobhit's previous, very short-lived boyfriend -- a guy named Tony he dated for three months. (He only dated one other guy before me and before Tony, and that was for only one month. I used to remember his name and now I can't remember it. I just know he was also blond. Shobhit has always liked blue-eyed, blond guys. He's not thrilled about me leaving my hair gray.) She apparently told Shobhit she liked me. Shobhit told me she would give him advice on how to better behave if he wanted to keep me. It occurs to me now that Shobhit and I would almost certainly not be together today if not for Faith, whose opinion Shobhit respects more than just about any other -- often even more than mine. Apparently he once complained about how much money I spend on movies, and she said to him, "Let him have one thing!" Ha!

Well, he did take that advice. He's complained plenty about how much I spend on all sorts of things, but he never complains about my love of, and time and money spent on, movies. I even format my online reviews in a way he specifically suggested, giving grades on different elements of a film.

We have our problems, even serious ones, at regular intervals. But here we are, still together.

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I actually had time to write my review last night, but I don't like posting more than one movie review on a given date on the calendar, and I had already posted my review of A United Kingdom yesterday morning. That, more than anything, is why I waited to write and post the review of The Boss Baby until this morning.

So last night instead, after we walked back home, I watched the latest Netflix comedy special by Mike Birbiglia, who is one of my favorite comedians. He doesn't make me hurt myself laughing exactly, but he does make me laugh plenty, and more importantly, I find him to be unusually skilled in constructing a full comedy set. This is a guy who doesn't just know how to write jokes. He knows how to write a show, and he's very good at it.

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Before we left for the movie, I made myself a grilled peanut butter and banana sandwich, at Shobhit's suggestion. He'd already had a quesadilla at Poquito's, which was one of the places he went to yesterday afternoon to give Ivan some requested privacy while he had a guy over to "hang out" (quotes were used by him -- we all know what it really meant) before he went to work. This was a rather new scenario for all of us, but a totally reasonable request. So, Shobhit went to entertain himself outside of the house for a couple of hours. Once Shobhit finally gets a job this will be rendered moot and Ivan can do whatever the hell he wants without having to ask Shobhit for special accommodations.

So anyway, part of that time, Shobhit killed time at Poquito's. He had said he might save some of the quesadilla for me, but he wound up eating it all. So I had the grilled peanut butter and banana sandwich.

And then, while walking home from the movie later in the evening, I read in an email from Auntie Rose:

March 1, 2017 – NATIONAL PEANUT BUTTER LOVER'S DAY – NATIONAL PIG DAY – NATIONAL DADGUM THAT'S GOOD DAY – NATIONAL FRUIT COMPOTE DAY – NATIONAL HORSE PROTECTION DAY

Did you eat peanut butter today? I am not sure if your diet allows peanut butter. I know you can eat nuts and also dairy products.


Holy shit, I did eat peanut butter (which Shobhit hates) yesterday! And I didn't even know it was National Peanut Butter Lover's Day.

This amused me a great deal. I guess I am easily entertained. Unless it's by a stupid-ass movie called The Boss Baby.

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rsc From: rsc Date: March 2nd, 2017 10:42 pm (UTC) (Link)
I agree about non-monogamy -- or at least I think it's a big part of our relationship's long-term stability too. But for some people it just doesn't seem to work. (For one thing, both partners have to want it.)
machupicchu From: machupicchu Date: March 2nd, 2017 11:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
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Indeed. But of course, if one person wants it and the other does not, then perhaps they do not belong together.

And for the record, I don't doubt there are some couples for whom monogamy is actually the best option. But someis the key word there -- I have serious doubts that it is actually the best option for the number of people who tell themselves that, due more to societal and cultural pressure than anything else.
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